What exactly is sexy chat?

sexy chat basically involves two people, both sitting at their own computer. Sometimes there is the addition of web cams or web mics, but usually it's just the two people conversing back and forth with nothing more than a keyboard. The easiest way to describe sexy chating is that they describe what they want to do to each other, what they have already done, or what they want to have done to themselves. The more descriptive you can be the better.

So where can you get lucky? The cyber world has many places people congregate. Chat rooms, Instant Messages, IRC chat, web cams, dating services, and of course, message boards (although not much can get accomplished there sexually).

Many people start their online sexual relationships through emails. Swapping erotic emails can also be stimulating, and fun. You can start out slow and swap useful information, which might prove advantageous in future IM's. For example, if you are into anal sex, this can be shared in your initial conversations. Later when you're partner begins to tell you how much he would like to invade your anal area, you won't be shocked. I find that if both partners are playing the same game, addressing what really turns them on, the sexual conversation becomes more meaningful.

"I met a complete stranger in a chat room. It was the first time I had ever experienced sexy chat and, I was a complete novice. So was he, so it worked out well for us. One night after we cybered, I sat down and wrote a short little sexy scene and emailed it to him. To my delight, he loved it and asked me to do it again."

“I prefer chat rooms usually in private chat, but I have done scenes in open room before, although they tend to be just BDSM stuff. It’s a great way to try out stuff and see how you feel about it before doing it in real life. I don’t touch myself during the session, unless I am with a [Dominatrix] I know and she orders me to do so, to tell her how I taste or something. I find it’s a great foreplay and I will usually do an intense cyber and then go and ****, thinking about what happened. If I'm lucky and I know the person it can sometimes round off with a bit of phone sex, just to bring it nicely to a close.”

For all its pitfalls, is sex worth it? I think so, if only to have the experience. You may learn a little about yourself in the process. If you decide not to, you know you’ll be passing on a free source of stimulation and future masturbation fodder. Whether your experiences will be good or bad depends on the choices you make. I wish you happy cybering!